Some good outcomes came out of the weekend.

in the end, I un-cancelled the date with the makeup artist, changed it back to the original date and time because the fiance was able to change the booking to the week before.

Let’s ignore the fact that I may have inconvenienced 15 OTHER people but meh… not my problem I’m SUPER organized. Let’s also ignore the fact that this was something the fiance could have suggested and done earlier…and saved me from having to waste my time troubling the makeup artist, and the crazy argument that we ended up having.

 

And so he conceded that he WAS wrong…

 

Yes, as long as he knows.. 

 

Oh.. and we also picked the cake..

 

Sometimes, you just need to give them more than an earful AND throw a massive hissy fit.. 

 

Oh the next 18mths are going to be fun

On Saturday, my dad and I inspected a property (not far from our house) because there was a potential “interest” from myself to purchase such the house.

I had stumbled upon it whilst helping a cousin look for properties, and it turned out that this property was a “mortgagee in possession” sale, basically the bank repossessed and trying to sell it.

From the outside, the house looked very pretty.

The inside… well that’s a totally different story altogether, we were kind disappointed. Here’s why:

• the previous owners must have left in a rush and their lack of care showed. There were boxes and boxes of crap left downstairs in the garage space. The realtor reckoned the bank would dispose of it. I somehow highly doubt this. Boils down to: paying for garbage removal
• in the family room, you could tell that there used to be a “tv wall unit” because half the plaster and paint is missing from the wall. Boils down to: potentially paying for someone to re-plaster the wall, should you not know how to do this and repaint.
• In the same family room, you tell there used to be a ceiling fan except it’s been removed. Boils down to: having to buy a replacement
• In the family bathroom all the paint is peeling. Boils down to: repainting the walls
• crappy tiling done where there are gaps to where the ducted heated vents are placed
• no way of knowing of the ducted heating or evaporative cooling system worked
• We also suspected that the toilet in the master bedroom ensuite was probably broken as when my dad turned on the tap to the toilet (because it wasnt flushing), water was squirting (from the tap, not the toilet)
• The garage space was actually the same size as the house upstairs (because it takes the underground level of the house- as in the house sits on top of the garage space) however due to the cheap conversion that they did, the garage now can house 3 cars (which is plenty) but the problem was the “conversion”. This conversion was REALLY creepy, more so because 4 out of the 5 rooms were dark (walls, door but no windows). The main “area” of this conversion had insulation and sewerage pipes running through it which made the space even more cramped. The ceiling height to the floor was really something! My dad’s 178cm tall and his head was almost touching the ceiling! One of the rooms had no light, I had to use the light from my phone to work out what was going on. Seriously felt like it was a scene from a horror movie. Even my dad commented that these rooms reminded him of those poor girls that got kidnapped, forced to live in a basement somewhere and had lots of kids etc.

The reality was if there was no garage conversion, the house wouldn’t look or feel so bad. Every person who walked to the garage area felt equally creeped out.No, seriously, it was THAT creepy, it took me 2 days to get over the eerie feeling out of my system.  But it’s something that, I’m guessing a reasonable person would have to knock down either to leave it as car space or to re-do as a downstairs living area.

 

From what I know (after speaking to the neighbours), the previous owners had recently purchased this particular home (roughly 18mths ago) for $460,000. Earlier this year around March(evident that they ran into some trouble), they put their property on the market and it got passed in at $420,000. With their refusal to sell, not long after the bank came knocking at their door and took possession of their home. 

Seriously, if I were the owner, I would have sold the house for $420,000 and dealt with the $40,000 difference. Now in a very depressed property market, the likelihood of even getting anywhere near $420,000 is zilch let alone $460,000. The law prevents the bank from selling the house for next to nothing which means if someone tries to put a $10 bid, it just can’t be sold. However even if the price is lower than the reserve and considered reasonable- eventually the bank will sell. (they must be seen to be doing the right thing)… and then they recover the costs from an insurance company of the difference of what they lost. 

 

The previous owner, seriously haven’t helped their own cause. Just because the bank has kicked you out (and don’t go bank bashing either, it’s a LONG process that they have to go through before they get to that stage of selling your family home) doesn’t and it shouldn’t give anyone the right to leave any home in a trashy state. 

I’m not sure at what stage the garage conversion was made (whether it was from the original owners of the house) or the one’s that purchased the property then defaulted but seriously. If it were the original owners then why the last owners didn’t knock it down any sooner begs the question. But I have this feeling that it was the owners who defaulted on the loan who had organized the cheap and nasty conversion (because these rooms are filled with boxes of their crap)… and they have definately NOT helped themselves. This conversion alone would be the reason to their downfall. I mean you can forgive rubbish (because a lot of people would probably do the same if the bank repossed the home), you could forgive the missing plasters and the paint job… but the conversion.. YIKES!

 

It will be interesting to see what offers they would get.

 

I personally wouldn’t buy it for anything more than 200K because there’s a lot of work that needs to be done to it, (even though a lot of it can be fixed by my dad..). Realistically, i think at auction people would be bidding anywhere from 350K-390K. I think the property is worth no more than 380K.

 

I’ll let you know next week what the property sells for!

 

 

 

During the week, my mum talked to some aunt/uncle who told her that another aunt had a fall. 

My dad asked me if it was OKAY to drive both my parents to my cousin’s house (because that’s where my aunt was staying) so they could visit. I didn’t see that being a problem.

 

EXCEPT when we arrived, nobody was home..

and do you know why?

 

Because my parents assumed that they didn’t need to call beforehand just to check if:

1. it was okay to come over

 

So I wasted 1hr (30minutes each way) of my life to which I would never ever get back again.

 

And you know what’s even dumber than rocking up to someone’s house and not calling them? Not actually having their contact numbers to call them just to see where they were.

My dad try to make light of the situation, I wanted to scream.

 

I told my mum nicely that in future:

1. either drive herself there

2. if i were to drive, to call prior.

 

Because of my disorganized parents, I wasted an entire day (because i had to wait around for them to get their sh*t together) all for nothing.

 

The more frustrating thing about all of this was when my mother casually says “oh, i’ll just call her then”

what!?!?! why couldnt she do that from the beginning? instead of wasting petrol, time and effort to drive down to the other side of the world for NOTHING when it could simply have all been done over the phone?

 

seriously…

 

w t f

And so we’ve spent most of THIS morning arguing over the fact that I’ve had to change my makeup artist because the stupid fiance is as thick as a brick.

 

I’ve already gone and told the makeup artist that I was busy and already gone and changed it. 

Stupid fiance says to me “you need to get your priorities right because it’s MY GRANDPA’S 90th”

you know i almost wanted to say “hey fuckwit, did i say im not going to your grandpa’s lunch?”  NO?! I already told him that i was going and that was final.

 

he’s arguing that because it’s a birthday… it takes all precedence. of course it does. hence why i already went and cancelled it.

but what he doesnt get.. because mr. “i have only bricks in my head” is that…

unlike everybody else in his immediate and extended family who he had the courtesy to ASK them whether or not they were free on whatever date he picked. (mind you he only started to organize this last sunday!) was whether or not they were busy. he never asked me because he can be THAT much of an asshole. Like i said, “just expect everything to be dropped at a hat for him” i mean why can’t he just assume that the rest of his family to “drop everything” and who cares about asking anyone “hey are u free” or “is this day good for u” because clearly at the end of the day “YOU NEED TO GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT BECAUSE IT’S MY GRANDPA’S 90TH”. you know thats all he needs to say to his aunt, uncles, cousins etc if they all say they have “other arrangements”

 

He didn’t extend that courtesy to me. then he had the fucken balls to say to me “well when you ask me to go to a 70th birthday for your aunty i went”, exactly I ASKED him, i asked the stupid thick as a brick (who im supposed to marry) whether or not he was FREE and if he wasn’t, then that was OKAY too.

i always ask him and tell him.. to give him plenty of notice. and there have been lots of occasions when he hasn’t been free. You know like STUDY? but i could say shit like “HEY IT’S MY AUNTY’S 70TH BIRTHDAY, GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT”

 

but i dont. 

 

He casually says to me “whats so hard about just doing the trial next year”.

actually there’s nothing hard about it but i did point out to him. HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW IF I HAVE TO CANCEL IT BECAUSE MR. FUCKWIT HAS GONE AND DOUBLE BOOKED US. History tells us that this has happened before.

 

and he makes it sound so “EASY” with just changing dates. other people.. are busy too. besides the make up artist being busy

but i also have a LIFE to, i work too, im busy as well.

 

oh, speaking of which… i sent some cake photos to the fiance on Thursday who said he was busy and would look at it when he would get home. Today is Sunday.. do you think he’s even made a decision. A decision apparently he says he has decide with his MOTHER. why the fuck does my FMIL have a say in this?

Fucken he wasn’t doing anything YESTERDAY so why didnt he discuss it then? fucken complains that his mother “sat on her hands” for ages with his grandpa’s birthday preparations. so what the flying F is he doing now?

And it’s not like I sent him a dozen or so cake pictures to decide. I sent him 6 pictures… 6! how hard is to pick one out of 6?

 

Oh boy, if i have to get the approval of the FMIL for everything, seriously he can go marry himself. It basically means the whole process is just going to drag on and on and on.

I mean do i have to get her okay on flowers, car hire, dresses, hair, makeup, invitations as well as his? At this rate, he and his mother can organize everything. 

Or better yet, not to get married at all.

 

 

I currently have 2 different types of phones in my possesion:

• iphone 4s
• samsung galaxy 3

And because I have these 2 phones, a lot of people have asked me what I find to be better.

Now I need to point out that I haven’t used the iphone 5 but just basing on the fact that so many of my friends have actually SOLD their iphone 5′s and reverted back to using the 4s because they don’t really see it being a “real upgrade”. But hey, if you’re an Apple fan please don’t come looking for me.

And my samsung galaxy 3 is by no means the 4G version, I got it just before the 4G came out (and yes I swore when it happened) but let’s face it- the carrier that I’m on (starts with an O) has lead me to believe it wouldn’t make a difference if it were 4G or not because their 3G connection alone is pretty dire- along the crappy side.

 

 why i like the Iphone 4s:

• it’s simple to use, (i.e you need to go to less options to get to things for example: less steps to try to take a panaroma photo then it does on a the SG3)
• everything just works, theres no lag time from app to app
• when a downloaded app doesn’t work means that most likely every other iphone user is having the same problem which means the developer is going to fix it- pretty quick
• there are JUST that much MORE apps available and you can find almost virtually any app for almost any purpose, sometimes you find things you didn’t know you needed to begin with
• i didn’t have to teach my parents to use any of the iphones, they just knew how to work it
• Siri is pretty smart and impressive (you might not think so, but you haven’t tried the alternative)
• just syncs with my macbook

Why I don’t like the iphone 4s:

• Sure, I haven’t used the iphone 5 but when you download the new IOS, it’s much of a muchness (please dont shoot me if you disagree). ANYWAY- it’s got limited functionality. I.e on the galaxy you can take like lots of shots (one after the other)-they call it bursts shots- not an option available on iphone
• the removal of google maps and youtube (sure you can download them from the app store) but what a waste of a download when it just used to be there? And let’s face it- google maps is a LOT better than apple maps.
• if i sync this device to another pc, i lose all my songs etc (good thing i dont have any) hahaha
• i hate the fact that apple just won’t comply with the rest of the phone world and makes you use a different phone charger. what a waste of resources!

Why I like the Samsung Galaxy 3:

• screen is huge! Not to big like the galaxy note (one of their other phones), the screen is large enough to comfortably read but not to big where it looks ridiculous when making a phone call (galaxy note users- im talking about you)
• lots of options, lots of ways to customize your phone to look different
• can be used as a HDD- which means you dont lose your stuff when you sync from one computer to the next
• standard phone charger across all the board (which is the small plug in-thingy)
• if you have a gmail account, sync-ing your email, calendar and everything associated to it is a breeze!
• the phone is smart, many times when the phones rung and ive put it face down- it knows to mute itself, or knows when im looking at it to keep the light on!

What i don’t like about it:

• whenever you download an app, you don’t know if it’s going to work. One of the biggest problems that exists in the Android world(and not many people discuss this) is that sure there’s ONE operating system (what are we on now? ice-cream? gingerbread? i dunno why they have to name it after sweet things) but there are half a dozen dimensions for the phones with different specifications (i.e ram, chips whatever) which means there is no guarantee that a downloaded app is going to work on your device. A lot of developers claim that they make MORE money with apple than they do on android, well duh! if there’s no guarantee that it’s going to work on your device, why on earth would you pay for it? I mean that’s the first problem I have.  There are a lot of games I’d love to buy but I wouldn’t, I might with my apple phone.
• the standard ringtones really annoy me. I dunno what drug the developers were on when they created it. But with names like “fairy fountain, gentle spring rain, midnight picnic”, it makes you wonder. I just want the standard normal ringtones that comes with the phone, any phone actually. But im guessing that its due to copyright issues.

So far- both these phones haven’t broken in my possession

 

 

 

And you know- Samsung as a brand, really redeemed themselves with the Galaxy 3… because i unfortunately had the misfortune of owning the original galaxy.. and HATED it, HATED the brand and seriously was nearing to throwing out the second story window then only running it over with my car- several times too. I couldn’t believe Samsung could make such a terrible product or even willing to put something as dire as that onto the market. A lot of people had touted it to be better than the iphone 4 (sorry, im not sure what drugs they were on or how much samsung had paid for them to say those stupid things) but it was an inferior product, it lagged, it didn’t work and it was just utterly crap. I hated it.

But the current galaxy- well it really gives apple a run for their money… 

 

So the million dollar question… which one?

 

If you’re new to the smart phone game or if you want to use something that’s tried and tested and just works- go down the road of apple.

if you hate the idea of having an apple (because everybody has them) and you hate the craze that goes with it or you like something that allows you to customize it (because your savvy) then the samsung galaxy phone is for you.

 

Not to long ago, I was with a colleague having lunch… and we stumbled upon a handwash… that basically has changed my life forever.

 

Although it did take me quite some time to getting around to buying any of their products but I’ve ended up with the following:

• Foaming Facial cleanser: I love this! My face hasn’t broken out using it. Initially I was washing this with a face cloth but then I’ve converted over to combining this with a facial brush. My face feels cleaner with every wash! I have a love hate relationship with pump bottles because they’re never travel friendly BUT i have purchased a new bottle with a normal cap! Even though it says its a “foaming” facial cleanser- there really isn’t that much foam. One of the reasons I love this stuff is when I first started using this product, I had used a “make-up” remover and was starting to have an allergic reaction to it- you know burning skin etc. Without much thought (and not even knowing if it was going to help), I lathered this stuff on my face, interestingly enough it calmed down the redness and got rid of the burning sensation that was occurring. You can see why I love it.
• Cream cleanser: I don’t like this. It came in a sample “travel pack” and for whatever reason it made my skin so dry, I started to peel. Worst still- I was away from home (hence the travel pack). I used this for a week whilst I was away and couldn’t bring my foaming facial cleanser along. It also claims to remove make-up but it’s really no different to the foaming one.
• Hydrating Mist Toner: this also came in the travel pack. According to the pack it can also be used to “set make-up” which i’ve tried but couldn’t really tell the difference on whether or not my make-up did stay on for a lot longer. What I do like about it is that it’s really refreshing. My friend likes it because it’s got rosewater and the jurlique equivalent costs three times as much. What i don’t like about it? The fact that it’s a spray. I’m very used to doing the whole toner into a pad thing. I’m disappointed with myself because I recently purchased the Dermologica’s toner and it’s HUGE (prior to using this) and kinda wish I didn’t.
• Facial Moisturizer:  I use this as part of my morning routine where I sometimes (if I can be bothered) add rose hip oil to the mix. But the facial moisturizer is lovely and light. It doesn’t smell too bad (just very organic, my friend thinks it smells like a day spa). I like it because it’s light, wouldn’t work if it was heavy as the sunscreen I apply on aftewards is heavy. In the beginning i was disappointed that it didn’t have any SPF in it but have gotten over it. However, if I find a product that is as light as this with SPF- I’d change in a heart beat.
• Moisturizing Restoring Night Cream: I use this obviously at night and it’s a LOT thicker than facial moisterizer. I ever take one step further and add the Rose hip oil in every night. In the beginning I found (with the mix of the oil) it used to just sit on my face, but after time I’m noticing that my skin is drinking this up and I’m waking up with soft dewy skin! According to their website this one particular product has one a lot of awards…
• Intensive Firming Serum:I use this before I put any of the moisterizers on. I really don’t know if it’s made a difference to my skin at all but I do it now because it’s become “part of the routine”. I read somewhere that Serums are meant to be good because it helps absorb the moisterizer more? (actually i dont know if thats even true). I’m not 100% sold on the product but like mentioned- part of routine now.
• Revitalizing Facial Scrub: I even got into the routine of scrubbing my face every 2-3 days (although lately I’ve started to become slack), I don’t mind using it because it’s not harsh on my face. Have used some scrubs where it’s felt like it’s ripped parts of my face off in the washing off process.
• Purifying Facial Masque: Probably the one product I wouldn’t necessarily buy again in a hurry. I use the mask on a weekly basis (usually on a Sunday) and haven’t found it to be THAT great. Especially being a “clay” based, I think I’m supposed to get that “extremely clean” feeling but I don’t. I’ve been using it for the last 2 months and seriously haven’t been able to love it like everything else, really can’t wait until it’s all finished. The product claims it “de-stresses” the skin- not even sure what that’s supposed to mean but it doesn’t look like it does anything. Also the packaging is this awkward tub and messy if you’re using your hands. So I’ve been using a brush to apply this stuff on. Oh- rinse your face first because it stains your towels!
• Rose Hip Oil: In the past I haven’t been a fan because it’s smelt badly and I wasn’t too sure on how to use this. But these days, I think I’m in LOVE with it (and I’ve gotten over the funny smell). I was warned by a friend that adding the oil to my routine could potentially clog me up so they were happy to take it off my hands should it not work out. I only added this process after 2 weeks of using the products (on a daily basis) and I only ever use 3 drops max (or else it becomes too much) and I’ve noticed that my skin has started to even out. I’ve even been using this on my dog bite scar and it’s starting to fade!

 *a lot of these products have a very botanical smell to it- along the lines of the aesop smell*

I love Sukin because it’s organic (or well they claim to be anyway) but it’s also CHEAP. The prices range from 10-20 mark. A lot of the equivalent products i.e rose hip oil are sold for twice the asking price that Sukin sells it for. It’s even better that it’s stocked at a lot of places i.e health food stores, pharmacies and Priceline! Actually the best thing is that a lot of these places (mainly Priceline and Chemist Warehouse) have either 2 for 1 sales or 30% off on these products!! (yup hence why I’ve hoarded so many of their products!)I’ve also gotten a lot of my family and friends either intrigued or actually using the product.

 

And speaking of cheap, I HAVE tried some very expensive products over the years- everything from Lancome to the 3 step Clinique process, but let’s face it- everytime I go to renew the product, my bank balance cries just a little bit. And it’s a very expensive way to find out whether or not the product works for you, sometimes (considering I have somewhat sensitive skin) I have to rule the product out and basically wasted a whole heap of money for something ultimately considered as junk (can’t use it then it’s junk). 

Although not too recently I went to a health food store at my local shopping centre who rubbished the brand and said the Sukin was no good hence why they stopped stocking it. They claimed that Sukin had changed the ingredients making some of the products not so- organic but when asked them exactly what was added and to what product- for whatever reason, they couldn’t tell me. Although this is the same store that sells Moogoo products $5 more than company’s website itself. I suspect that they got rid of the product because they couldn’t compete price wise with the other pharmacies and priceline when the sales were on.

Nonetheless if you ever get the time to read the list of ingredients- a lot of it is natural (not that i’m a chemist or anything) but it’s also paraben free. Parabens for those who don’t know is a kind of preservative widely used in the cosmetic industry (which is bad) and apparently can be cancer causing (which is even worse), although these claims haven’t been 100% proven. Although MANY cosmetic companies say that it’s safe but personally I’d prefer to stay away from the stuff you know may not be good for you.

 

 

 

This review is 100% based on my own thoughts and opinions. I am not affiliated with Sukin Organics and did not receive remuneration to post this product review.

 

 

Have been contemplating on whether or not we should buy “save the date cards” to inform some of our family and friends. 

For starters it’s not a custom we have for the Vietnamese, mainly it’s just by word of mouth. As in, our mothers tell other mothers not to allow their kids to get married on that same day. Considering our wedding isn’t exactly “auspicious”, i really can’t see any other couple wanting to get married on that particular date, unless of course they don’t believe in that kinda thing.

But the “novio” kinda wants to have something to give to his family and friends. 

I’m a tad hesitant- not because they break the bank but mainly because….

18 months in a sense is a long time (note: not enough time to organize a wedding..but i digress) and some friendships might not last…which means you’ve now awkwardly have to invite them to the wedding. 

Yes, trust me to think of the negatives, but i can’t help it. It’s just in my nature to do so… but getting back to the topic at hand.

 

What if we hand them out to friends (family we got no choice in the matter), who don’t become friends.

I mean, even for me… i have a history of friends falling off the bandwagon- well the friendship one anyway.. mostly because our schedules are different and we’re all too busy but I have had the occasional BLOW UP with certain people where they’ve been completely written out of my life forever. 

I guess, if i had a massive blow up with a friend, I hope they know that just because I gave them a “save the date” card that they don’t think they’re invited to our wedding…but it’s not the blow-ups i’m concerned about..it’s the people who you kinda don’t see for a long time and somewhere or somehow it got all weird and stuff (hence why you dont see them much).. then what?

Or what about the colleague: if they work with you, they get an invite, if they don’t work with you… unless you’re friends outside of work, what happens then? you still have to invite them because 18mths ago you gave them a card that said “please save this date”. I mean how am I supposed to know what the plans of our colleagues (especially the ones we’re not close with but are obliged to invite regardless)

 

I wonder if other people have had this much dilemma… or maybe it’s just me?

 

 I thought I found “THE” wedding cake… boy was i wrong.

I googled “wedding cake” and “stairs” together and this is what I found (and yes, I’m very excited!) a whole bunch of cakes with waterfalls and staircases!!!

I know looking at this- my dearest friend Ms. T. would be on the floor laughing her head off. This cake is the ultimate of ultimates. I don’t need to point out the obvious (flowers, water fountain and pink- oh wait I just did) but Oh man… I just wished the bride and groom at the top looked a lot bigger!

But wait- Ms. T… i found you some more cakes…

 

Don’t you just love how the stair cases zigs- then zags??? I know you do!! because I do!!!!!! Althought I do love the big cake in the middle with the stairs spreading out

 

And without the staircases- it does look boring right?? 

The one on top looks like the first photo design with a different colour scheme.. and the one below… well I think I might be just SOLD!!!!! LOL.. now i just need to find out if the cake-maker in Richmond can make this.. I’m sure they can. Fingers crossed that they have even more extravagant cake designs in store. Seriously cake without stairs or a water fountain… isn’t just… not ON!!!

 

Interested to see what the boy picks!

Which one do you like?

Further to my post below: 

I am now currently raging over this comment from the dumber half of our relationship:

 

“it’s lucky that we’ve started the preparations 18months early”

 

This has irked me to no end, and seriously. I am ready to hang up the boots and call it quits.

I don’t know why women all want to get married, getting married is great but it’s no fun trying to get there.  Yes, I know there are some women who enjoy organizing it (i know one of my friends did) and I’m not saying that I hate it entirely. I find the process at times laborious.

Unless you got the cash to hire a wedding planner (which i don’t), you’re stuck doing all the research yourself. Did I mention that it’s all by yourself? Sometimes it’s not so hard because other people(like your friends) have gone down this road before and you can kinda use their supplier contacts. Sometimes, you’re on your own and you literally doing this BLIND (and i dont mean drunk, although sometimes I wish I was)

I think the “wedding” organization shows you potentially what married life is going to be. 

For instance, if your partner has had no say in it mainly because they couldn’t care less, most likely you’re going to be the one doing all the housework and your husband not caring so much as how the household is run. Actually I don’t know if this is true because I haven’t gotten married yet.. hahah

but i suspect  it to be the case.

 

And you know, it’s a LOT to take on. You’re trying to organize a LOT of things in a very short amount of time:

- caterting

-venue

-makeup artist

-dresses

-suits

-music bands/djs

-invitations

-flowers

-cakes

-celebrants/church

-tea ceremony processes

-car hire.

-photographer

-honeymoon

 

I’m not sure how many GROOMS actually help out and do the research. In my OWN experience, I find that I’m the one that’s scouring either the yellow pages, the asian magazines and the internet and when I found the best of 3-5 things, it gets sent to other half for some feedback. More or less, involving them in the process, but to get down to the top 5, it would have been countless research hours involved. But all I’m asking is “5 minutes of his time”. Sometimes, i get the annoying “I’ll look at it when I get home/later” because he can’t be bothered looking at it now. You know that’s irritating because there’s been a lot of work and effort to get to that stage but it all goes unrecognized  They might thing the process is easy, but it’s not. There are so many factors to take into account (especially if you’re realistic and not having your head lumped int the sand), the costs and making sure that it doesn’t go OVER budget, that it will be okay for both families (like they won’t mind and hopefully like what you kinda picked because the politics or having to listen to anyone complain about your decision is really overbearing) and that there’s a possibility that your partner will like it (even if they don’t, who cares)

It wouldn’t be so hard and I probably would complain less if I wasn’t working. But like HIM, I also hold a FULL TIME JOB, and i ALSO travel a lot. So it’s hard! Time isn’t something I have a lot of (although I got plenty of time for xanga) but to be constantly looking at wedding websites can be a drainer especially if you’re not one of those people who just LOVE weddings.

And you know, his ONLY responsibility was to get an engagement ring, in which he had plenty of help considering I already showed him the design I wanted, told him the ring specifications I wanted (he didn’t get exactly what I asked for) and even had one of my friends accompany him to the jeweller. All he had to do was cough up the money and ask me to marry him (it was already a done deal considering we had already paid the deposit on the venue weeks earlier).

I had asked him to organize the honeymoon (but it seems, I’m the one left researching about resorts etc) *facepalm*

 

So really, 18 months.. is NOT a lot of time, when time isn’t something you have plenty of. I do give my hats off to my friends who somehow have managed to organize their weddings within a 6month time frame without having to check themselves into a mental asylum.

 

And you know, men complain that married life isn’t what they thought it would be.. well they already started off on the wrong foot by being so damned incompetent and saying the wrong things to piss us off. 

Right now, I’m ready to shove my blunt pencil into his eye but I won’t because it wouldn’t look so nice in photos

 

 

 

 

 

So I’ve made an appointment with a makeup artist to do a makeup and hair trial. I did this in September and we ended up with an agreed date sometime in December.

Unfortunately it looks like I have to change it (originally it was going to be November but due to some mis-communication on my part- it was to be held in December). I’ve put it in my Google calendar which both my fiance and I use regularly (we have sharing capacity) so that we never ever try to double book ourselves.

And so…

last week, my partner decided that he was going to hold his grandpa’s 90th on the same day as the make-up trial. *sadface*

Yes, it’s easy enough for me to re-schedule (im hoping for an earlier trial because it was originally set for 11am to 9am) but it’s not the point. The point is- this was something organized months ago, and my partner has decided to organize this “lunch” on a whim.

This is meant to be a “surprise” birthday lunch, so I’m guessing considering it’s still or was in the “organizing” stage that it could be easily changed, but apparently not. Plus his grandpa’s birthday isn’t even until the Tuesday so really, what day or time this surprise thing is done doesn’t really matter right? WRONG!

It has to be THAT Saturday because the venue that they’re holding it at is having a “christmas” lunch and if held on the Sunday.. it happens to be a seafood buffet (don’t ask me whats wrong with a seafood buffet) and apparently for whatever reason this isn’t preferable because you know, they wanna do the whole “christmas” and birthday thing all at the same time.

To give my partner credit, he did ask me if I wanted it to be changed all the while making it sound like I’m the one being difficult. Okay maybe I am, but what the heck man, you know prior to committing the date, he had every access to check our calendars to see what was on, I mean he had the DECENCY to ask everybody else (in his family) if they were busy, but didn’t ask me or care to check (because you know I just drop everything at the drop of the hat for him).

But to ask him to move it, does make me look like to everybody else in his family like I am as difficult as I seem (hahaha you know you want to hide the REAL truth until AFTER you get married).

Here’s the OTHER thing…

 

none of these people can access the venue without my pass because it’s being held at part of an exclusive club that needs a membership to enter. Which ONLY i hold.

So really, they’re asking me a LOT, to use my access card (and having the lunch billed to my account), and having to re-schedule something THAT i was dilligent enough to organize..you know the whole being inconvenienced thing really does piss me off to no end.

 

And you know what, this LUNCH.. was never the original plan to begin with. They were supposed to have organized “tram car dinners” but how you try to get 16 people on board something like that (forget whether or not all these people are free or can afford it), the tram car dinners are basically booked out for at least 3 months.  

A combination of poor planning, irregular schedules, constant uprooting (from the grandparents side of things)- with them travelling up and down the country (long story)… in the end… I am the one that’s being INCONVENIENT..

and it’s not like i have a choice NOT to attend.. like i mentioned, i don’t go, they’d all twiddle their thumbs outside this venue.

 

Oh- and the other half today made a snide comment to me about it 

“it’s lucky that we’ve started the preparations 18months early” *rage*

 

Let me go kick a brick wall or something.

getting angrier as i type this (and i thought it would help to vent)