November 10, 2012
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Wedding Rant 101- pt 2
And so we’ve spent most of THIS morning arguing over the fact that I’ve had to change my makeup artist because the stupid fiance is as thick as a brick.
I’ve already gone and told the makeup artist that I was busy and already gone and changed it.
Stupid fiance says to me “you need to get your priorities right because it’s MY GRANDPA’S 90th”
you know i almost wanted to say “hey fuckwit, did i say im not going to your grandpa’s lunch?” NO?! I already told him that i was going and that was final.
he’s arguing that because it’s a birthday… it takes all precedence. of course it does. hence why i already went and cancelled it.
but what he doesnt get.. because mr. “i have only bricks in my head” is that…
unlike everybody else in his immediate and extended family who he had the courtesy to ASK them whether or not they were free on whatever date he picked. (mind you he only started to organize this last sunday!) was whether or not they were busy. he never asked me because he can be THAT much of an asshole. Like i said, “just expect everything to be dropped at a hat for him” i mean why can’t he just assume that the rest of his family to “drop everything” and who cares about asking anyone “hey are u free” or “is this day good for u” because clearly at the end of the day “YOU NEED TO GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT BECAUSE IT’S MY GRANDPA’S 90TH”. you know thats all he needs to say to his aunt, uncles, cousins etc if they all say they have “other arrangements”
He didn’t extend that courtesy to me. then he had the fucken balls to say to me “well when you ask me to go to a 70th birthday for your aunty i went”, exactly I ASKED him, i asked the stupid thick as a brick (who im supposed to marry) whether or not he was FREE and if he wasn’t, then that was OKAY too.
i always ask him and tell him.. to give him plenty of notice. and there have been lots of occasions when he hasn’t been free. You know like STUDY? but i could say shit like “HEY IT’S MY AUNTY’S 70TH BIRTHDAY, GET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT”
but i dont.
He casually says to me “whats so hard about just doing the trial next year”.
actually there’s nothing hard about it but i did point out to him. HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW IF I HAVE TO CANCEL IT BECAUSE MR. FUCKWIT HAS GONE AND DOUBLE BOOKED US. History tells us that this has happened before.
and he makes it sound so “EASY” with just changing dates. other people.. are busy too. besides the make up artist being busy
but i also have a LIFE to, i work too, im busy as well.
oh, speaking of which… i sent some cake photos to the fiance on Thursday who said he was busy and would look at it when he would get home. Today is Sunday.. do you think he’s even made a decision. A decision apparently he says he has decide with his MOTHER. why the fuck does my FMIL have a say in this?
Fucken he wasn’t doing anything YESTERDAY so why didnt he discuss it then? fucken complains that his mother “sat on her hands” for ages with his grandpa’s birthday preparations. so what the flying F is he doing now?
And it’s not like I sent him a dozen or so cake pictures to decide. I sent him 6 pictures… 6! how hard is to pick one out of 6?
Oh boy, if i have to get the approval of the FMIL for everything, seriously he can go marry himself. It basically means the whole process is just going to drag on and on and on.
I mean do i have to get her okay on flowers, car hire, dresses, hair, makeup, invitations as well as his? At this rate, he and his mother can organize everything.
Or better yet, not to get married at all.
Comments (1)
my advice to you is this:
1. Do not give him options of which one he prefers cause you will never get an answer. So what you do is choose ONE, only ONE that you like most, whether it be cake or cars or whatever. And basically show the picture to him to his face, and say what do you think. It will either be a YES or NO or a MAYBE. (you will need to define what the MAYBE means, for me now, it means, his ok with it, but doesn’t love it, which to me in turns means a YES).
2. Dont expect any appreciation on what you do. No matter how much time and effort you have gone into researching or calling or emailing service providers, do not expect a recognition cause you will surely be disappointment. Hence, dont expect anything from them. If they already give you a YES or NO, thats already a huge achievement. Time to celebrate! hahaha
3. If you make an appointment for the both of you to see someone, take his phone, and put it in the calendar of that phone and set an alarm to it. If you do not do this, they will double book themselves, as you have already discovered.
4. Remember, reality is, a guy will generally not get involved in the planning of the wedding. Hence dont expect too much from them. Hence why point 1 is important.
I think thats all for my advice. If you follow some these rules you may just survive this.