November 8, 2012

• wedding rant

  Further to my post below: 

  I am now currently raging over this comment from the dumber half of our relationship:

   

  “it’s lucky that we’ve started the preparations 18months early”

   

  This has irked me to no end, and seriously. I am ready to hang up the boots and call it quits.

  I don’t know why women all want to get married, getting married is great but it’s no fun trying to get there.  Yes, I know there are some women who enjoy organizing it (i know one of my friends did) and I’m not saying that I hate it entirely. I find the process at times laborious.

  Unless you got the cash to hire a wedding planner (which i don’t), you’re stuck doing all the research yourself. Did I mention that it’s all by yourself? Sometimes it’s not so hard because other people(like your friends) have gone down this road before and you can kinda use their supplier contacts. Sometimes, you’re on your own and you literally doing this BLIND (and i dont mean drunk, although sometimes I wish I was)

  I think the “wedding” organization shows you potentially what married life is going to be. 

  For instance, if your partner has had no say in it mainly because they couldn’t care less, most likely you’re going to be the one doing all the housework and your husband not caring so much as how the household is run. Actually I don’t know if this is true because I haven’t gotten married yet.. hahah

  but i suspect  it to be the case.

   

  And you know, it’s a LOT to take on. You’re trying to organize a LOT of things in a very short amount of time:

  - caterting

  -venue

  -makeup artist

  -dresses

  -suits

  -music bands/djs

  -invitations

  -flowers

  -cakes

  -celebrants/church

  -tea ceremony processes

  -car hire.

  -photographer

  -honeymoon

   

  I’m not sure how many GROOMS actually help out and do the research. In my OWN experience, I find that I’m the one that’s scouring either the yellow pages, the asian magazines and the internet and when I found the best of 3-5 things, it gets sent to other half for some feedback. More or less, involving them in the process, but to get down to the top 5, it would have been countless research hours involved. But all I’m asking is “5 minutes of his time”. Sometimes, i get the annoying “I’ll look at it when I get home/later” because he can’t be bothered looking at it now. You know that’s irritating because there’s been a lot of work and effort to get to that stage but it all goes unrecognized  They might thing the process is easy, but it’s not. There are so many factors to take into account (especially if you’re realistic and not having your head lumped int the sand), the costs and making sure that it doesn’t go OVER budget, that it will be okay for both families (like they won’t mind and hopefully like what you kinda picked because the politics or having to listen to anyone complain about your decision is really overbearing) and that there’s a possibility that your partner will like it (even if they don’t, who cares)

  It wouldn’t be so hard and I probably would complain less if I wasn’t working. But like HIM, I also hold a FULL TIME JOB, and i ALSO travel a lot. So it’s hard! Time isn’t something I have a lot of (although I got plenty of time for xanga) but to be constantly looking at wedding websites can be a drainer especially if you’re not one of those people who just LOVE weddings.

  And you know, his ONLY responsibility was to get an engagement ring, in which he had plenty of help considering I already showed him the design I wanted, told him the ring specifications I wanted (he didn’t get exactly what I asked for) and even had one of my friends accompany him to the jeweller. All he had to do was cough up the money and ask me to marry him (it was already a done deal considering we had already paid the deposit on the venue weeks earlier).

  I had asked him to organize the honeymoon (but it seems, I’m the one left researching about resorts etc) *facepalm*

   

  So really, 18 months.. is NOT a lot of time, when time isn’t something you have plenty of. I do give my hats off to my friends who somehow have managed to organize their weddings within a 6month time frame without having to check themselves into a mental asylum.

   

  And you know, men complain that married life isn’t what they thought it would be.. well they already started off on the wrong foot by being so damned incompetent and saying the wrong things to piss us off. 

  Right now, I’m ready to shove my blunt pencil into his eye but I won’t because it wouldn’t look so nice in photos

   

   

   

   

   

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