In about a month’s time, my bf and I would have celebrated our 2 year anniversary together.
I’ve actually known him for a little bit more than 2 years. For those who don’t know, we met on a plane heading to Sydney, sitting literally one seat away…. and the rest they say is history.
It is a cute and very romantic story to tell people and i get a lot of girls telling me it’s “so Hollywood”… yes perhaps it is.. except at the time of meeting him, I didn’t feel very “Hollywood”, i was just trying my best not to throw up on him. HAHAHAH- you know I HATE flying.
And it’s been an interesting (almost) 2 years together. We have enjoyed many different experiences, some good and some bad. and of course as you know, in 2014 we’ve decided to get married except he hasn’t proposed yet. God knows what’s taking him so long to getting around to just asking, technically he doesnt have to ask, he just needs to cough up the money for a ring. I mean you know it, i know it that we’re getting married. Heck, the date’s already been picked out, we just need to put a deposit on our venue and we’re good to go.
He keeps telling me “to be patient” and i keep telling him “u wanna make friends with my fist? i hear your left eye wants a nice bruising”… any wonder why he hasn’t proposed yet? BAHAHHAHAHA
Being patient isn’t one of my fortes, and I’ve had to be patient plenty of times with my man. Sometimes he’s a bit slow… to grasp things, I’m not saying he’s stupid (just borderline)-kidding. I’m just saying he’s slow.
I’ll give you an example: When I first met him, I texted him a joke that I saw on one of friend’s facebook that said
“The left boob said to the right boob- I think we need to get some support or else people will think we’re nuts” (or something like that) and you know… 2 days later when i asked him about the joke, he was like “i didnt get it” *facepalm*. I suspect that’s probably when I should have run for the hills. And trust an “accountant” to break it down to a mathematical perspective.
However, for our relationship to work, my bf has had to be MEGA patient with me. In truth, like most women, I am very frustrating, crazy,and sometimes I make no sense (which in turn makes him laugh his ass off for my own stupidity).
Frustrating moment: Putting up with me during our trip to VN. Countless times I lost my shit which meant that I yelled and screamed at him even when he didn’t do anything wrong. Like the time we trekked through Sapa and I refused to walk the 11kms back to town. I stood there in the heat screaming, crying and wanting to go home (needless to say, i managed to walk back). The ever loving bf just kept encouraging me to keep going and kept that I was doing a great job and he was proud of me which frustrated me even more and at times, really tempted to punch him in the face for putting me in this predicament. Looking back now, it was the best trek I have ever done. The last one i’d ever do, but the best one. HAHAHA
Crazy moment: Like the time we were on our way back from our week in Merrimbula and I wanted him to stop at Maccas for a coke. He refused. I asked him to stop at a petrol station and he refused. I cracked the el skitzo like the psychopath that I was. His intentions were good, he wanted me to be healthy. Obviously Coca-Cola is sugar ladden and bad for my health BUT you do not get in between a woman and her LOVE for coca-cola.
Basically, i turned into the crazy green eyed monster who was yelling and screaming in the car demanding he pull over in some unknown place so I could catch the train back home because I refused to sit in the car with an asshole who wouldn’t provide me with coke.
And yes, i told him I’d break up with him after he passed to BP petrol stations and didn’t pull over for the coke. Yes, I was cussing and rolling around in frustration in my front passenger seat.
Really, he should have kept driving to the closest mental asylum, especially at the way i was behaving. Instead he gave in and compensated the ogre with some ice-cream too.
Everytime, he drives down the same route, he remembers his crazy gf going el spastico in the car after being refused a coke and throwing the mother of all tantrums.
Making no sense moment: I am known to speak before I think (I do this all the time) and there have been many times when I say shit that don’t make sense. Like the time I screamed on the top of my lungs for him to let go of my hand by saying “let go of YOUR hand” and then got angrier when nothing happened and kept screaming “LET GO OF YOUR HAND!?!?!? COME ON DO IT” obviously it had to be pointed out that “one cannot let go of their own hand unless it is chopped off”
and you know, i get angry really quick so I was super mad at it all.
But of course, for our relationship to work it’s not just about patience, there’s gotta be a lot of understanding and trust. We have to be understanding of one another because we’ve got plenty of commitments outside of work.
He being with work and studies. Work makes him fly everywhere, sometimes he could be in Canberra or Sydney and these things aren’t exactly planned weeks or months ahead. He’d tell me less than a week before that it’s happening and I just have to accept it. I know I can’t be the person that comes in between his work/career. I mean at the end of the day, it’s what’s going to pay our mortgage/bills one day.
And then there’s his studying, which is every other day that he’s not working late or interstate for work. He’s doing his masters of something or other- the guy keeps telling me but it goes in one ear and out the other (it’s finance related hence very boring)
These two things also make him turn into a crazy person. When he’s studying or working late(whether at home or in the office), he can get a bit “short” with me and get all pissy over the smallest things. I’ve learnt to ignore him, but it gets hard during stressful periods like deadlines/exams/assignments due dates because he’s even more moodier which means no fun time for me
And you gotta have a lot of trust in a relationship considering your partner works for one of those big accounting firms (where there are a lot of OTHER hot asian women, who mind you are half your size and a lot prettier than you) or working interstate. You just need to trust that your man isn’t going to go astray, threatening to lop off his penis is also another way to ensure nothing like that would ever happen LOL-not kidding either.
But it goes both ways too, he has to trust me when i go out with my friends, or when i’m working away from home…and understand that every few weeks i come up with quirky shit to do. You know like next month my friend and I are taking Spanish lessons which means Monday nights are out of the question or that for the last 10 months Tuesdays were always out of the question because I was doing Aqua aerobics…
and the biggest thing is Compromise, seriously you need a lot of it, well not more than any other relationship but we’ve had our challenges for example: him getting used to our Vietnamese traditions. Although in many ways he’s a lot more Asian I’d ever be. He holds chopsticks better than me, he eats more stinky asian foods than me (and enjoys it too). Putting up with our weird cheap asian-ness like having “quick showers” or “wearing more clothes” instead of turning on the heater.. LOL
Obviously for a relationship to work long term, they will always need all of these elements.. OH and RESPECT (we got plenty of that) although he hates it when i say crassy things like “asshole, and c*nt” or call him “fatty boomba”<— I love that.
But besides all of that, the greatest thing for me is that 2 (almost) years on, I still feel as strongly about him as I did when i first met him. Which is a lot considering in my past relationships, by the 2 year mark I was bored and finding a way OUT. But of course, i’d have to feel strongly about him, i mean we’ve decided to get married. How freakin FRACKED up would it be if I married a man who i had no passion, no love, no respect, not willing to compromise or lacked trust in?
I’m just not that kind of girl (anymore)…
I guess when you meet the right one (or the best wrong person) for you, life is good.